Facebook Survey

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Here's the deal: last night, inspired by my friend (and I mean that in the real-life sense of the word), Kenneth Maresco, I signed up for a Facebook account. This is the first time I've ever tried one of the social-networking sites before and I'm pretty lost but enjoying the novelty of it all.

First discovery: my dad is already on Facebook. Good grief, now I feel really out of it. But I'm coming to understand how people end up spending their whole life on these sites. They're consuming aren't they? I mean I've been walking around today thinking thoughts like, "I only have two friends. I am a loser."

So I have a few questions for all you Facebook veterans out there that I hope you'll take the time to answer with a comment. Here goes...

1. How many times a day do you check your Facebook account?


2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was homeschooled so I'm not sure what I'll do.

3. What's the most useful thing about Facebook?

4. Are there any really cool add-ons that I should know about?

5. Does your church use Facebook to build "community" online? Give examples. I found out my church already has a group. I'm curious what other churches are doing.

6. Is it true that some people have dumped email and mostly use Facebook to communicate?

7. How do respond when someone posts on your wall? Do you post on their wall, on your own? I'm not clear on this.

8. I joined a group for Humble Orthodoxy and New Attitude. I also considered joining a group called "Josh Harris Ruined My Dating Life" but I was afraid I would spoil the fun they were having. But, boy, could I give them scoop on what a jerk I am. Any other groups I should think about joining?

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded?

10. What does it mean to "poke" someone. How does that work?

11. Why do so many girls use a picture of themselves that includes three other friends? Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds? Is this something I'll never understand as a man?

Okay, that's all I have. Feel free to answer all my questions in a comment or pick and choose. Just make sure to list the number you're answering so I can figure out what you're talking about. I'm going to try and get Shannon to sign up so she can get in touch with her old college and highschool pals.

Oh, one more quick thing. If you're on Facebook, will you please, please, please be my friend? Thanks. I'm tired of being a friendless loser.

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First of all, this really made me laugh.

1. That depends on how busy I am that day. I would say between 5 and 10. Yikes.

2. Just say no.

3. Keeping in touch with people!!! It is an amazing way to keep up with people who you wouldn't have time to personally e-mail all the time. You can still stay up to date on each other's lives much more quickly through Facebook.

5. Yes, I started our church's group actually. We're a small church, of about 200 or less, but we have 23 people on Facebook last time I checked.

7. You post on their wall.

9. Mostly the temptation to get on 259134041 times a day. This sounds simple, but I set it up so they'd notify me by e-mail whenever someone writes to me or anything. That way I don't have an excuse to check it unless someone's actually communicated with me.

1. No more than twice, unless I get e-mail messages indicating that someone left me a message.

2. I usually send them a message asking them how I know them.

3. Keeping in touch with old friends.

4. Yeah -- the countries you've visited/lived in and the "causes" application.

5. NA

6. Most of the students that I minister to utilize Facebook more than they use email.

7. Post on their wall - it's an unwritten rule that you don't write on your own wall (I've been blasted on this one by some teenage know-it-alls!!!)

8. "John Piper is a gentleman and a scholar", "Mark Driscoll is my homeboy", "Desiring God", "Invisible Children"

9. Not on Facebook -- this has been an issue on MySpace though.

10. It's a stupid game. It means nothing. You "poke" other people back and forth. Lame.

11. Hahahahahahaha.....

I will go now and add you!

what is your facebook url so we can add you as a friend?
mine is
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=502849211

1. I dont check facebook more than maybe twice a day (unless someone writes on my wall or i get an invite)
2. I often will not accept them as a friend, my theory is I can keep the spam off my site as much as possible if I know who my friends are
3.I think it is the community, seeing what is going on in peoples lives and connecting with old friends
4.There is a book/cd rack that is great so people can see what books/cds you own. Also ilike will list what is playing on your itunes.
5.There are acouple of groups that the church uses, mostly for discussions of the service,music, etc
6.i havent heard of this, and i couldnt see myself using facebook as my only source to communicate
7. I do wall to wall when someone post on my wall, it puts my comments on their page, but with wall to wall you can read the conversation you two are having (say over the course of a couple of days)
8.There are some grerat reformed groups, and you cant go wrong with "Mark Driscoll is my homeboy"! :-)
9.i personally havent found any, since the pictures and site are cleaner than say myspace, but i could see wasting hours on the site and not you know living as being a sin
10. this is useless..all you get is a notification someone poked you. thats it
11.something else to add to the mystery of women

LOL As a former K-12 homeschooler, #2 just cracked me up! Socialization jokes used to get under my skin, probably because I did have a few issues, but now that I'm 10 years removed from school, I find them very entertaining :-)

1. How many times a day do you check your Facebook account?

Several.


2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was homeschooled so I'm not sure what I'll do.

I put them on a limited view of my profile. Basically, I just don't give out my personal info, such as address, phone, etc.

3. What's the most useful thing about Facebook?

Networking.

4. Are there any really cool add-ons that I should know about?

Yes, the books feature. You can share books that you are reading or have read, and give comments, etc.

5. Does your church use Facebook to build "community" online? Give examples. I found out my church already has a group. I'm curious what other churches are doing.

No.

6. Is it true that some people have dumped email and mostly use Facebook to communicate?

I guess anything is possible these days.

7. How do respond when someone posts on your wall? Do you post on their wall, on your own? I'm not clear on this.

Normally you post on their wall.

8. I joined a group for Humble Orthodoxy and New Attitude. I also considered joining a group called "Josh Harris Ruined My Dating Life" but I was afraid I would spoil the fun they were having. But, boy, could I give them scoop on what a jerk I am. Any other groups I should think about joining?

Mine! Just kidding, really. =)

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded?

No. Other than spending too much time on FB, but like anything I have to use self control.

10. What does it mean to "poke" someone. How does that work?

Hahahah, don't we all wish we knew?

11. Why do so many girls use a picture of themselves that includes three other friends? Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds? Is this something I'll never understand as a man?

:o )

1. How many times a day do you check your Facebook account?
Depends on how busy I am. Can be too many times a day, but I can also go days without checking it if I am gone.

2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was homeschooled so I'm not sure what I'll do.

I don't friend people I don't know. I was homeschooled, too, but still have many, many facebook friends. ;)

3. What's the most useful thing about Facebook?
Catching up with old friends. By far, it is the best for that.

4. Are there any really cool add-ons that I should know about?
Personally, I avoid the add-ons because they are MySpace-esque. ;)

7. How do respond when someone posts on your wall? Do you post on their wall, on your own? I'm not clear on this.
On theirs.

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded?

Spending too much time on there.

10. What does it mean to "poke" someone. How does that work?
My old roommate and I are in a poking war that will probably go until Jesus comes back. It's stupid and fun.

11. Why do so many girls use a picture of themselves that includes three other friends? Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds? Is this something I'll never understand as a man?
Life is better in groups?

1. Totally depends on the day, but I would say in general probably between two and four.

2. Typically, I will send them a message and ask how they know me. Sometimes I meet people in real life and then forget about it. If they DON'T know me, I will accept them anyway if they go to my school (they can see my profile anyway that way), but probably not otherwise.

3. Keeping in touch with people I don't live near. I have many friends (yes, real-life friends, but ones separated by distance) in other states or even countries, and it's very convenient to be able to stay vaguely up to date on what they are doing, and be able to say a quick hello when I want.

4. I'm not a supporter of the add-on craze. The only ones I have added are "Video" so I can watch other people's videos, and "Books" so I can keep my book reading list up to date.

5. Yes. All of the singles in my church are in one care group, and we have a group we use to keep all our activities and events together.

6. I don't know the answer to this. I don't use the "message" system on Facebook very much, and still use e-mail prolificly.

7. You respond by posting on their wall. If you think that's inconvenient for holding any kind of "conversation," you are right, but there's a handy little "See Wall-to-Wall" option which is nice.

8. The "Sovereign Grace Ministries" group is rather large, and you should be in that. You should also be in "Nathan Sasser is My Homeboy" and "THE CLASH."

9. The biggest one is definitely the temptation to waste time. Facebook is usually the first thing I turn to when I want to procrastinate. On the one hand, though, if I didn't have Facebook I would probably just find something else. But as you noted, it is very easy to waste time there, and easy to get carried away as well. On perhaps a less spiritual level, I think it COULD have effects on the we interact with people -- it's always easier to say things online that you would not say in real life.

10. Poking is one of the greatest features of Facebook. You may even find yourself engaging in a "Poke War," which consists of you and someone else poking each other back and forth until the other person gets bored.

11. An excellent question.

1. check it? never

2. people i don't know want to be my friend? don't think this will ever happen but if it does i would kindly let them know i have enough friends right now.

3. the most useful thing about facebook? uh... uh... here's hoping internet 2 doesn't include facebook.

4. don't know but i would like an "not my friends" add-on.

5. my church? now i know it does.

6. people who ditch email for facebook? oh do i feel sorry for them.

7. please don't right on walls. hang a picture.

8. a basket weaving... or butter churning group?

9. temptations? thinking i am superior to those that use facebook. repent of my arrogance.

10. poking? this is offensive.

11. guys, for good reason, rarely pose in a picture that close.

kerrin

1. Whenever I feel I have to clear the emails from Facebook flooding my email account.


2. haha! you ignore the friend request i guess.

3. Keeping in touch with high school friends and friends overseas! really really.

4. The 'ask a question' application! (: the 'food fight' one is a pretty funny yet useless one too heh heh

5. Not that I know of. But my uni overseas christian fellowship (OCF) group has one. We get to post threads and comments on the community's group wall. it's pretty cool

6. No way! I think email is way more... personal and thoughtful. Inmyhumbleopinion, Facebook wallposts/messages are more for quick hellos.

7. (: You post back on their wall. Unless you want people who read your wall to know what you want to say to that person as well... then you post on your own wall.

8. :D hahaha

9. OH YEAH. it's just so TIME-CONSUMING if you really get into it/get carried away and start browsing people's profiles and photo albums. I also found myself wanting to keep up with every single comment posted on my wall/photo albums. I'm currently finishing a week-long "Facebook fast" with a friend. The initial days were kinda difficult (just like any other fast I guess) but after that I found I just had more time and 'mind space' to spend on more important things

10. haha, poking let's the other person know that you're actually alive on facebook and usually let's him/her

11. "Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds?" probably. "Is this something I'll never understand as a man?" definitely (:


"If you're on Facebook, will you please, please, please be my friend? Thanks. I'm tired of being a friendless loser." hahahaha you can't be serious :D

I work (as an evangelist) with students and facebook is great for learning names & faces a the start of the year - and having a record of contact details. Useful for lowlevel communication and wasting time...

Come join the Reformed Charismatic group.

1. about 4-5 times a day, that's one thing I need to improve on. I am really bad at trying to stay off facebook.


2. Well I'll reject them most of the time. There have only been 4 people that I have accepted as friends that I don't know, but we read each otehrs blogs.

3. Staying in touch with friends.. it's cool!

4. They're all useless..

5. Well our church has a group, since we're a student church. Our group is TBT St. Pauls Stellenbosch.. the guys who stay at the church house also have their own group called the House of Crete Stellenbosch. It's useful. Our church have made use of making events known.

6. Hmm.. I still use email.

7. I post on their wall.. what's the point of writing on your own wall in reply to someone's message and no one ever checks back!

8. ahh... Asian Parents are too Crazy about Grades! Every argument should be solved with Rock, Paper and Scissors.... and I think you'd like this one... Short people will rule the world!

9. I think my biggest problem is trying to stay off.. I'm still thinking of ideas to keep off! also sometimes the ads on the sidebar have inappropriate photos.. I don't know how bad the ads are in the States because I am in South Africa, and they post ads relevant to the country that you're living in.

10. It's fun useless thing for irritating people!

11. I think it's something men will never understand... us women.. well it's our secret! :)

1. It's uncountable how much I check my facebook. I usually have the window up, always. Since I rarely shut off my computer, technically I'm always on facebook. I always check whenever I get on my computer, and every time I get a notification e-mail. And sometimes I just look at it for a few seconds and sometimes I spend a half hour.


2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was homeschooled so I'm not sure what I'll do.

If you don't know them at all, reject them. It's a bad idea to friend people you don't know- they might be trying to steal your information to sell it. If you think you MIGHT know them, send them a message simply asking them. if you do. Make sure you have the feature in facebook that makes your profile visible to people you poke and message turned off.

3. What's the most useful thing about Facebook?

Having a way to get in touch with people, and a way to stay in touch. I have so many connections with people I wouldn't have otherwise- and I don't even have to memorize their birthday!

4. Are there any really cool add-ons that I should know about?

Eh. Scrabulous. I like Scrabble.

5. Does your church use Facebook to build "community" online? Give examples. I found out my church already has a group. I'm curious what other churches are doing.

I'm an atheist.

6. Is it true that some people have dumped email and mostly use Facebook to communicate?

Yes. At least, in my little college circle it has. I've had facebook since I started school, so I've never used e-mail except to communicate with people besides my parents.

7. How do respond when someone posts on your wall? Do you post on their wall, on your own? I'm not clear on this.

Depends really. I used to not respond at all- and then I realized I got very few posts on my wall. Now that I respond, people are more encouraged to post. People like getting feedback. It's not necessary, but the poster will probably appreciate it.

8. I joined a group for Humble Orthodoxy and New Attitude. I also considered joining a group called "Josh Harris Ruined My Dating Life" but I was afraid I would spoil the fun they were having. But, boy, could I give them scoop on what a jerk I am. Any other groups I should think about joining?

That's a really personal thing, and I have no idea who you are. So no.

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded?

Hehe, oh yeah. Someone may message you for random sex. Or, they would, if you were a girl. But you're not. So no. Best thing to do on facebook is to ignore stuff. It's pretty much the only measure you can take.

10. What does it mean to "poke" someone. How does that work?

Poking is part of a friending ritual. It's also part of flirting.

So, you see someone you know on facebook. If you're really good friends, friend them. It's not impolite. But be sure that you are really good friends. However, if you're unsure of whether they would accept your friend request, poke them. Then they know you exist, and if they think that you should be friends they'll friend you. However, they also have the option to poke you back. This means they're also not sure, and it can be for a number of complicated reasons. At this point, it's up to you to friend them or not. DO NOT, however, poke back. This is clear breach of etiquette because pokes after the second makes the friending issue becomes awkward.

Pokes are also often used as a flirtation device. Sometimes I get some from random guys. I generally don't return pokes from people I don't know.

11. Why do so many girls use a picture of themselves that includes three other friends? Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds? Is this something I'll never understand as a man?

It's to demonstrate they they have friends. If that wasn't obvious already. The people that do this are a) popular b) obsessed with looking like they're popular c) both. i.e. I only see sorority girl and people I know to be odious IRL doing this.

I'm in your boat Josh. In fact, I didn't even have a Facebook until my dear daughter, Kristin, signed me up for one a few weeks ago. The next thing I knew my own son "poked" me and sent me a bone as a "free gift." Boy did I feel loved!

Kristin directed me to this post after telling me how much your questions were like those of my own.

I think the most useful thing about Facebook is that it keeps this homeschooling mom from lounging on the sofa watching soap operas in the middle of the day. "All My Children" just can't compete with all my friends. (A whopping total of 12! Sniff! Sniff!)

My advice, skip all this nonsense and write another bestseller. "I Kissed Facebook Goodbye." You'll make millions and as an added bonus there's bound to be another group started at Facebook about how Josh Harris has once again ruined people's lives.

1.) Only when I get emails from facebook.
2.)It's probably different for you because you're umm...famous. But I say no.
3.) Keeping in touch with people you don't see a lot, and sharing pictures (it's a lot easier/faster than emailing them).
4.) Um, no.
5.) Not really. Our church has a group but it's not very many people, and they are mostly around age 20.
6.) Yes, some people.
7.) Their wall.
8.) Haha, I've definitely seen an "I kissed dating goodbye" group. There were some...interesting discussions going on there. Haha. Yeah, you should join the CLASH one.
9.) I think there are definitely temptations to become self-centered or lazy. I put limitations on how much I use the computer.
10.) Ummm???
11.) Because I don't usually take pictures of myself, so most of the ones I have of me are with my friends.

Josh,

Thanks for asking these questions. I assure you that you are not the only one with the same questions.

On another note and as a fellow newbie to Facebook, I noticed that LifeChurch.tv has recently started a "Facebook church." I just blogged about it here (if you want to see the links and articles about it). In a day where ecclesiology is being weakened and social networking heightened, perhaps it would be worthwhile to address more the phenomenon of such programs that are attempting to connect a hyper-individualized, disconnected generation of young people.

Obviously, I have serious concerns about this and what is done in the name of "church," and I think you do as well. Nevertheless, it would be profitable to explore what ways these programs can be used for the sake of the gospel.

1. When I'm bored.

2. I see no reason to reject a friend request any more than I'd reject a stranger from being a friend in real life. I say, accept them all and feel free to "unfriend" people later.

7. You can make your wall invisible in the privacy settings of your account. I recommend this, since it is pointless.

10. Poking is pointless, too.

1. Once or twice

2. Reject the request

3. Connecting and re-connecting with friends.

4. The only one I use is the Where I've Been app. But then again, I have a rather unusual interest in maps and geography. :)

5. I'm Facebook friends with a some people from my church, but that's the extent of it.

6. I know a few who have, namely, my younger siblings (maybe it's a generational thing?).

7. You either post on their wall, or reply with a message (the Facebook version of email), depending on the length and how personal it is.

8. There is a good number of Reformed groups out there that you may like. Beyond that, I don't know your interests, but you can rest assured that there are groups out there for any hobby or interest you may have!

9. Spending too much time on it.

10. Poking wars with friends (generally those of your gender) can be fun, but other than that, I find it to be a pretty useless feature.

11. I actually know quite a few guys who use pictures of themselves with other people, though in their case it's generally their girlfriend/wife. As a lady, I only use pictures of just me (and most of my female friends do the same), though to answer your question, yes, it is something you will never understand. :)

Hi Josh
I would add you except there are 500+ Joshua Harrises and I'm not sure which one you are (!) - could you post a link to your profile, please?

Hi there, from across the pond!

1. depends on the day so anything between zero and ten!
2. When someone asks to be your friend, you can view their profile for a bit. If i don't know them, i look at their friends to see who the mutual link is. I call it from there
3. Keeping in touch with casual acquaintances as well as good friends
4. Look at my profile - graffiti is good, virtual bookshelf is good as well.
5. It's been discussed at the leadership meeting that most recently happened.
6. I have - obviously if they are facebook friend though. If not, email or text message are still the way forward
7. Post on theirs. Be aware then all your mutual friends with that person can see any posts between you and them
8. Start your own!
9. Anonymity and secrecy in messaging. Also, some girls profiles have provocative profile pictures or photos on. I've responded by not going onto facebook late at night
10. "Poke" is like a gentle nudge to say hello. However, some people consider it code for a sexual come on. Someone pokes you, you poke back - depending on your view of what poke means. Thats about it! Apparently, there is a group called "Quit with the poking, lets just have sex!"
11. I'm a man - i have no idea what this means either

Re: #11 - I always thought that this was a guessing game instituted from social network history past. You really had to be that girl's friend to know which one she is. :) Adds a level of security. :) Heheh.


1. How many times a day do you check your Facebook account?
Maybe about three times a day but I don't spend more than thirty seconds on the site. I just look at the newsfeed and see if anyone has changed something significant to their profile.

2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was homeschooled so I'm not sure what I'll do.

I usually send a message asking them how I know them and if they reply and they seem nice I will add them.

3. What's the most useful thing about Facebook?

Being reminded of other people's birthdays.

4. Are there any really cool add-ons that I should know about?
The add-ons seem more like a bother to me.

5. Does your church use Facebook to build "community" online? Give examples. I found out my church already has a group. I'm curious what other churches are doing.
I don't believe our church does but our RUF tries to connect with each other through Facebook.

6. Is it true that some people have dumped email and mostly use Facebook to communicate?
I don't know about email but I have had several friends "announce" on Facebook that their phone is broken/lost and use Facebook to communicate in the mean time.

7. How do respond when someone posts on your wall? Do you post on their wall, on your own? I'm not clear on this.
It depends on the type of post. If they ask a question, I will reply. Otherwise, I don't acknowledge any comment. But I have very few comments (only about 100) so I'm not the best person to imitate.

8. I joined a group for Humble Orthodoxy and New Attitude. I also considered joining a group called "Josh Harris Ruined My Dating Life" but I was afraid I would spoil the fun they were having. But, boy, could I give them scoop on what a jerk I am. Any other groups I should think about joining?

Yes. My group! Viva la Reformacion! Sorry, just had to make that little plug.

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded?
The only temptation I've found on Facebook is to neglect more traditional forms of connecting with community. A person can write "happy birthday" on someone's wall or give a cyber cookie as a gift through Facebook but it doesn't equal a real cookie or hug from the person who sent it. We need the physical person too.

10. What does it mean to "poke" someone. How does that work?
I think it's just a way of saying hi.

11. Why do so many girls use a picture of themselves that includes three other friends? Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds? Is this something I'll never understand as a man?
Being a girl, I think it's just a way of communicating to others that these are the people that mean the most to me. It's not something mysterious.

Oh by the way, I added you as a friend.

Oh I didn't read number 7 correctly. Always respond on their wall if you do reply. The person receives notifications when you write on their wall, not yours.

Ha ha ha! Awesome blog post. I'm hunting you down and adding you now. Do you know how many guys called Josh Harris there are on facebook? Heaps.

In reply to your question about adding people, up till now I've only added friends I know from real life or from a genuine email/blogging friendship. Until now. But I'm thinking it's pretty certain you're not the scary stalker type.

1. typically once a day, sporadic on weekends
2. haha you can message them, i usually ask who they are or where we met
3. finding old friends, like, elementary school friends. and mostly keeping up with good friends that you just happened to be more removed (geographically or whatever reason)
4. facebook is an application platform so i'm assuming you're asking about that. graffiti is cool and videos. i add them and let people play around with it
5. yes, our youth group does. also for broad-based events, creating a facebook event is useful for attendance tracking and invitations.
6. nahh, i usually check email, and if i have a facebook notification, then i'll log into facebook. email itsel is still crucial
7. haha that's up to you, good ettiquete is to respond. when your birthday rolls around your wall will be spammed by people (people you know, but nevertheless people who you might not have talked to for a while)
8. hehe careful about starting flamewars. arguing on the internet is very stupid.
9. the ability to "stalk" or "check out" girls without them knowing. also wasting time. logging out is the best way =]
10. if you're friendly with them, it's a way of saying hi, but it can be suggestive. i usually avoid it
11. don't worry about that, i will never figure that out

1. I check my Facebook at least 10 times a day...which is bad, and I'm recently realizing that it might be becoming an idol

2. This hasn't happened to me yet, but I know it will to you, because so many people will have read your books!

3. Keeping in touch with brothers and sisters in Christ over distances, and also serve as an encouragement to others.

4. Daily Bible Verses!

5. Yes, one of our Pastors started a Facebook Bible discussion group

6. I don't know, but I still use Gmail for everything.

7. You post on their wall

8. Haha....

9. I think Facebook can become an idol as I've already stated...the healthy amount for using it would probably be less than 3 times a day. Other than that, I haven't experienced any spiritual pitfalls.

10. I rarely use poke, which is I think usually used when you don't have anything to say to someone, but you still want to say, "Hey, I'm thinking of you!"

11. I have a picture of myself :D

1. Typically twice a day, morning and night.

2. I try and work out why the connection - for example a friend's brother in the USA is now a friend. That's cool.

3. It's easy to keep up contact with friends all over the world.

4. Video is OK.

5. The youngsters and students keep in touch via facebook.

6. Probably. But not me.

7. Usually Wall-to-wall.

8. I don't much like groups, except as a kind of badge of who you are.

9. Really the timewasting thing. Control your habit or stop !

10. I got into a poking duel with someone in the USA once.

11. Herds ? HERDS ?

Blessings

Alan

Facebook is pretty addictive. I can't add to what most people have said, but I really enjoy it. I've gotten in touch with many people who I haven't seen in ages. My primary reason for liking facebook best, is because it's easiest to upload pictures there. When I'm not busy I spend to much time on there, but since I'm a teacher and coach, school time means less facebook time - or it should anyway ;)

way to go following Kenneth's example!
I loved the post he put on his wall - great reminder about our use of time.

Like many people have mentioned, it provides a VERY easy way to stay in touch with your friends, see what they have been up to, and say "hi"
not to mention never missing a birthday again =)

Oh, the reason I got on facebook was because people in my caregroup were sharing all their pictures through it, and I wanted to see them. I love the way facebook allows you to tag photos to your friends.

And don't forget to join the "New Attitude Attendees" group =)

1. 10+


2. I check their friends to see how they know me. If it's a random person I just say no. If it's a business contact I usually add. Remember you can have a limited profile and a full profile

3. Keeping in touch with old friends, networking, etc.

4. There are a couple cool ones and tons of dumb ones. Depending on your perspective.

5. Most young people have started facebook groups for their churches.

6. Yup I never email anyone under the age of 30 anymore.

7. post on their wall.

8. LOL

9. Nope

10. Poking is to let friends know that you are thinking of them but don't care enough about them to actually write on their wall.

11. It's to make it confusing for the guys.

Hope this helps and I'll have to send you a friend request on facebook now :-)

Possibly one of the most problematic issues concerning facebook, at least when it started, as a college-exclusive networking site has to do with number 11. Facebook and Myspace at that time were very popular ways to stalk someone, especially facebook, because people were being brilliant and putting there room number, classes, and telephone numbers on their page, and anyone in the same network could see it. Back then (2005ish for me), networks were arranged by colleges. One common way to prevent the stalking was to place a picture of yourself in the context of friends on facebook, or another unrecongnizable picture. This way, when people saw your picture, they had to work alot harder to figure out what your name was, and which one in the picture you were.
#1- I only check facebook when someone posts a new comment, or sends me some kind of comment, or friend request and my email tells me so.
#2- When I don't know the person, I usually automatically hit deny.
#3- I can talk to all of my friends who went to other schools.
#4- I don't like the add-ons. Maybe I'm old school, maybe I just don't care to spend that much time on facebook, I dont know.
#5-Nope
#7-Post on their wall. Now you have the option to go "wall to wall" with them, so you can see the whole conversation.
#8- I joined oh so many groups, most of them were completely pointless, and periodically I go through and delete the dumbest ones.
#9- Sticking with people I know has helped avoid a lot of these types of things.
#10- Its weird. I try not to do it ever, unless someone pokes me and I have to poke them back because they will throw a hissy fit.

1. How many times a day do you check your Facebook account? Probably 2-3 - but I'm a teacher, so I check it more in the summer...


2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was homeschooled so I'm not sure what I'll do.
This has only happened to me twice - it will probably happen to you more often. I sent both people messages on facebook to find out how they found me. They were both from or interested in Sovereign Grace and knew some of my other friends so I ended up saying yes to both. But as a role I think it's kind of creepy.

3. What's the most useful thing about Facebook?
I like keeping up with college friends that have moved out of the area. It's also great for inviting people to events (or finding out about cool stuff going on in the area!), and a lot of people post their photos on facebook, as well.

4. Are there any really cool add-ons that I should know about?
There are a couple really cool book add-ons I like, there's a couple virtual map ones where you can list cities/countries you've visited, and there's one called ilike that lets you list favorite songs and dedicate songs to friends.

5. Does your church use Facebook to build "community" online? Give examples. I found out my church already has a group. I'm curious what other churches are doing.
There is a "Covenant Fellowship" group online. We do use facebook to keep up with each other and let each other know about events (e. g., a concert tonight that a band from the church is playing; a going away party, etc.). Obviously it's not a source of solid community, but it's a good way to communicate with large groups of people at one time.

6. Is it true that some people have dumped email and mostly use Facebook to communicate?
Not that I'm aware of. I use both.

7. How do respond when someone posts on your wall? Do you post on their wall, on your own? I'm not clear on this.
You post back to their wall.

8. I joined a group for Humble Orthodoxy and New Attitude. I also considered joining a group called "Josh Harris Ruined My Dating Life" but I was afraid I would spoil the fun they were having. But, boy, could I give them scoop on what a jerk I am. Any other groups I should think about joining?
The group for Covenant Fellowship Church, haha. Look on the side for groups connected to the two you joined and at the groups your friends have joined to see if you can find cool new ones.

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded?
I'm sure others will have deeper answers to this question than I do. I can think of two: one would be the temptation to spend too much time on it. I like that facebook doesn't have to take a lot of time, but it can, and I have to watch out for it. Another would be fear of man - it's easy to tailor your profile to portray a certain "image" of yourself. I try to ask myself why I'm adding an application/joining a group/changing my profile, etc. and discern whether my facebook activity reflects well on my Savior.

10. What does it mean to "poke" someone. How does that work?
Ummm, it just says on their site "you have been poked by _________." Personally, I think poking's a really creepy feature of facebook and avoid it whenever possible.

11. Why do so many s use a picture of themselves that includes three other friends? Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds? Is this something I'll never understand as a man?
Maybe. I'm a woman, and I often use pictures of myself with friends - I like to commemorate the good times we have :).

I will be your friend if you don't mind...I don't go to your church but I've spoken with you several times although you probably won't remember me, haha. I'll friend you now.

you should join the the group Josh Harris ruined my dating life - it would be funny and you would be surprised at how lame their comments are on your book. One would think they never read it...

This made me laugh SO hard. Now I don't feel quite so bad about my FB cluelessness...

1. Once or twice. Usually for 5 min or so...my main objection to FB has always been that it's a waste of time.

2. Message them to find out where you know them from, or just say no. :-)

3. Social connections. Our church's (KingsWay in Richmond)singles uses it to schedule events and outreaches.

4. Definitely the Books application. I love reading the reviews folks give.

5. As I said, our singles group uses it to plan events and outreaches. It's terribly efficient, 'cause everyone's on there already, and no one misses the memo. :-)

6. I hope not!

7. Posting back on their wall seems customary...

8. I don't know...feel free to join some goofy-er ones, though. Always interesting.

9. Time management, mostly. It's a serious waster of time, and it tends to make me lazier than before I get on it.

11. I am a girl, and I really have no idea.

I just asked you to be my 'friend.'

1. I admit i check facebook too many times a day, though it's not a fixed number.
2. I never accept someone that i do not know personally. i like keeping things in their place, and i don't want strangers getting too much of my personal info.
3. Getting in touch and keeping in touch with old/new friends/co-workers/family/etc is the best part about facebook.
4. There are lots of cool add-ons. i personally like the daily bible verse, the webmaps (to show where i've been, lived, and want to go), and websudoku!
5. My church hasn't discovered facebook yet, but many of my church friends are starting to use it and i hope to start a church group soon!
6. I don't know that people have dropped e-mail altogether, but facebook is very convenient to communicate with. plus, you can write on someone's wall, if it's just a quick note, but you can also write someone a personal (private) message.
7. If someone writes on your wall, and you want to get back at them, you write on theirs!
8. University, school, city groups are cool, because you get in touch with people who share the same community as you. Groups that share the same interests are also great (eg. chocolate lovers, music fans, bookworms, etc.)
9. Fortunately, facebook is quite structured and i don't receive notices or ads of any kind, that i did not choose to receive first. i choose what i get in my inbox and what shows up on my profile.
10. When you poke someone, it means you're giving that person permission (access) to your profile for a given amount of time. However, it doesn't mean that you can see theirs, unless they poke you back.
11. Having grown up with my kid brother, and always having guy friends, this is a mystery to me as well... you'll have to ask God when we get to heaven.

1. i also have the account set up so that it e-mails me when i have a new notification and i only check my e-mail once maybe twice if its a weird day
2. since i'm a girl, and i have gotten request from random guys i don't know, if i've never met the person i just reject the friend request so as to be safe
8. you can join clc's group
10. i still don't understand "poke" it happens alot and makes no sense to me

and i already added you as a friend if that makes you feel better so that you aren't a "friendless loser" hahahaha

1. usually once or twice a day


2. Don't worry...I was homeschooled too and just got a facebook last year when I went to college. You'll get the hang of it after a while. I usually ignore the person if I don't know them, but since you want us to be your friend that might not be the option for you.

3. I think the most usful thing is being able to keep in contact with people who don't usually answer e-mails. (but I also like being able to post pictures if I want to)

6. yes some people have

7. when someone posts on your wall, you usually write them back on their wall (unless it's too personal then you can send them a message through Facebook).

9. not that I've seen, but you can never be too careful.

10. to "poke" someone usually is just for fun.

11. i'm a girl, and i don't even know why we do it sometimes.

I can't actually answer any of the questions because.... well I've never been on facebook, believe it or not. Which is why I have my own question. I wouldn't say I have an opinion either way when it comes to Facebook, but, if it's that great, why does the Be-Safe Online filter that everyone promotes and raves about and says you should have on your computer block the site? Just a question. I am certainly not condemning it! I have lots of friends that use it. I'd just love to hear what someone else thinks about this.

1. 1-3.


2. I'm homeschooled too, so I'm also not sure how to react to this.

3. Finding people I haven't talked to in a while, especially old friends from New York, who I only saw during summer camp and don't see at all now.

4. No. I have a few, and usually don't use them at all.

5. Well, as I'm in your church, I know that we aren't doing anything official. These things are usually done by church members anyway.

6. Not that I know of.

7. I typically respond, unless it is obviously someone just saying something in passing.

8. Groups are interesting. I've noticed they are more social statements than actual groups. People tend to look at the group titles to associate you with certain causes or groups. Conversation doesn't usually happen on groups, except the one making fun of my brother's lack of photogenic qualities which I joined. But that's for good fun (I typically pointed out how unphotogenic I am).

9. I think that it can be a time sink - the best way to avoid it is to make sure that you don't spend large amounts of time on Facebook, especially if your spiritual life is suffering.

10. I think this has been explained.

11. This is like the couple photos, in which people in relationships end up posting a picture of the two of them. It is a good indication that the relationship is moving along in real life, especially if the pictures keep on coming.

Hey Josh,

I added you as a friend. I'm a newbie also. I joined to stay connected with the youth of my church. I can't answer your questions, we'll be learning together. :)

Peace,

Jessica

1. How many times a day do you check your Facebook account?
--a lot. actually, way too much.


2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was homeschooled so I'm not sure what I'll do.

I ignore the friend request, usually.

3. What's the most useful thing about Facebook?

I can communicate with my friends about when things are, etc. It's replaced email.

4. Are there any really cool add-ons that I should know about?

many.

5. Does your church use Facebook to build "community" online? Give examples. I found out my church already has a group. I'm curious what other churches are doing.
I've joined a facebook group that's connected to my denomination.

6. Is it true that some people have dumped email and mostly use Facebook to communicate?

yes. I pretty much did.

7. How do respond when someone posts on your wall? Do you post on their wall, on your own? I'm not clear on this.

on their wall.

8. I joined a group for Humble Orthodoxy and New Attitude. I also considered joining a group called "Josh Harris Ruined My Dating Life" but I was afraid I would spoil the fun they were having. But, boy, could I give them scoop on what a jerk I am. Any other groups I should think about joining?

No, but I'd advise you stick away from political groups. They are particularly heinous.

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded?

Nope. I dont take alot of things to heart, and if it's anything hateful or hurtful, I forgive it and approach it with love.

10. What does it mean to "poke" someone. How does that work?

Interpreted in different ways. I use it as kind of silly "hi!"

11. Why do so many girls use a picture of themselves that includes three other friends? Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds? Is this something I'll never understand as a man?

It's a sisterhood thing. Why are we in pictures with our three other friends? Because usually it means two things: 1) This girl is single and 2) These other girls are her best friends, and boys don't break the bonds of sisterhood. No offense.

2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was home schooled so I'm not sure what I'll do.

In general I accept them, just to see how old acquaintances are doing, however this is not the most awesome of ideas (see point 9)

5. Does your church use Facebook to build "community" online?

Not our church, but we have used it for a youth camp that we are running across churches in South Africa.

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded?

One thing that I've found is that it can be difficult to keep one's profile clean and pure, one moment you add an old elementary school friend as a friend on face book, the next moment his status has got rude language and his/her profile picture is less than enriching, not the most awesome of testimonies to your unbelieving friends who view your profile.

1. How many times a day do you check your Facebook account?
4 or 5 times When I do I'm on for 1/2 hr to an 1hr 1/2

2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was homeschooled so I'm not sure what I'll do.
You reject it or to be nice add them and just not talk to them. Most people add just to have more friends or because they know someone you know.

3. What's the most useful thing about Facebook?
the wall quick message first thing everyone checks

4. Are there any really cool add-ons that I should know about?
hotlist, moods, and top friends

5. Does your church use Facebook to build "community" online? Give examples. I found out my church already has a group. I'm curious what other churches are doing.
nope too much like myspace for them

6. Is it true that some people have dumped email and mostly use Facebook to communicate?
not that i now of.

7. How do respond when someone posts on your wall? Do you post on their wall, on your own? I'm not clear on this.
on their wall asap its rude to make them wait

8. I joined a group for Humble Orthodoxy and New Attitude. I also considered joining a group called "Josh Harris Ruined My Dating Life" but I was afraid I would spoil the fun they were having. But, boy, could I give them scoop on what a jerk I am. Any other groups I should think about joining?
join all and any that intrest you

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded?
No I don't let it effect my life that much. It's more of a thing to do when I have nothing else to do

10. What does it mean to "poke" someone. How does that work?
It's kind of like say hi but it gets really annoying people have stoped poking. You can add the thing that lets you not just poke but choos what you do like hug or wave

11. Why do so many girls use a picture of themselves that includes three other friends? Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds? Is this something I'll never understand as a man?
We want to be the center of attention and we want to be in all of the pictures but we dont want to look like were in love with our selves so if other people are in the pic and we dont tag our selves then it's ok

have fun i'll look you up

1. How many times a day do you check your Facebook account?

About 4


2. What do you do when someone you don't know wants to be your friend? This hasn't happened to me yet but it might, and I was homeschooled so I'm not sure what I'll do. I look to see if I know them from meeting them face to face then I add them..if I don't know them on a personal bases or he isn't someone like a writer then I dont' add them! :-)

3. What's the most useful thing about Facebook? Being able to connect with friends

4. Are there any really cool add-ons that I should know about? UMMM..I am totally NEW at it to, but if you find out let me know!

5. Does your church use Facebook to build "community" online? Give examples. I found out my church already has a group. I'm curious what other churches are doing. No..but we have a myspace page so it is similar! We use it to make announcements and add video's etc.

6. Is it true that some people have dumped email and mostly use Facebook to communicate? I still use e-mail...so NO.. :-0

7. How do respond when someone posts on your wall? Do you post on their wall, on your own? I'm not clear on this. I always respond to anyone that sends me an e-mail! So I always post on thier wall.....yes you can post on their wall...if you post on your own wall then you only get the message!

8. I joined a group for Humble Orthodoxy and New Attitude. I also considered joining a group called "Josh Harris Ruined My Dating Life" but I was afraid I would spoil the fun they were having. But, boy, could I give them scoop on what a jerk I am. Any other groups I should think about joining? nope...I haven't joined any yet

9. A more serious question: Are there any unique spiritual pitfalls or temptations that you've encountered on Facebook? How have you responded? No i haven't had any problems...

10. What does it mean to "poke" someone. How does that work? HA HA..I AM NOT SURE either!

11. Why do so many girls use a picture of themselves that includes three other friends? Is this like visiting the ladies room in herds? Is this something I'll never understand as a man? HA HA...Girls as you know are close..so they like to show all the friends they have! :-)

I tried getting Facebook, but realized the format was way over my head (pitiful, considering I'm a teenager), so I deleted it.
Question 11 is great. It totally reminds me of Bill Cosby.

There's a lot to do in Facebook and as others have noted, it can be an excellent tool to your ministry.

Here's something in particular that might interest you when in FB. I'm including the site where I found it because I believe BlogMinistry is going to be a great resource for us out here trying to share the gospel online:
http://www.blogministry.com/2007/08/15/give-it-up-to-god-facebook-application/#comments

welcome to Facebook! This post made me laugh. =)

1. I typically check it at night when i get home from work - probably 5 times a week total.

3. I've really enjoyed getting to know better some of the people from my church that are in other care groups - especially the care groups that meet 30+ minutes away from mine. Its been neat to see their pictures, hear their excitement or lack thereof of their days at home with the kids, etc.

4. My favorites are "where I've been" "boombox" "personal DNA" and "visual bookshelf"

5. yes. the group is small, but by God's grace its growing! =)

8. "Love the Church" is another good group.

1. it's easy to get sucked into the vortex. there are WAY too many things to do on there now - the new applications can take up your life, not to mention your profile!


2. lol. i send them a polite "do i know you" message, and if they are a friend of a friend, i'll accept the request. if not, i say have a nice day. the end.

3. keeping in touch with people outside of your local church/general community... also knowing where people are spiritually, (you can tell a lot from a person's facebook...) and getting to know college friends (especially friends of the opposite sex) without getting too personal and face-to-face...

4. don't do it! don't do it! just add the video and picture applications. anything else is a waste of time, unless you want to set yourself apart in some way... (i'll admit... i put up my fav. comic strips!)

5. yes! and to keep in touch after conferences... such as Na and the Clash!

6. i don't doubt it... but facebook is a pretty superficial means of building friendships - not that email is much better...

7. only the super facebook addicts post on their own wall. it's like the homeschooler version of facebook - don't do it.

8. keep an eye on the groups you join. sometimes people create nice, innocent groups, and then suddenly change them to profanity or immorality... it's sad. you have to remember who you represent!
p.s. you should TOTALLY join their group...

9. i think facebook should be just as open of a forum to your parents and friends as any other means of communication. my parents have complete access to mine, and i'm grateful for their input and accountability. one pitfall would definitely be time, and another would be the temptation to avoid intentionality of real-life conversation - using facebook to build friendships instead.

10. poking allows someone to view your limited profile for a certain amount of time. but it's so ridiculous... throwing sheep is much better. :)

11. haha! it's so simple! a lot of girls don't want to be targeted/stalked, so they put the group pix up to keep it "general" rather than personal.
dad didn't allow me to put my last name, for extra safety precautions...

You are so funny, Josh!

1. Maybe 1 every 2 days. I used to be on it more, but I either do not have much access to internet any more or it is blocked.


2. I message them asking them who they are and if they know me.

3. I find Facebook very useful for communicating with friends...catching up with friends...finding lost friends...etc. It is like a giant post board in high school where people can write whatever they want on the wall or pictures and not get in trouble by the teacher - having to spent detention cleaning toilets or something.

4. Nah

5. I actually started my church's group. We have had a lot of people leave the church for ministry opportunities in other parts of the country/world. It is good to still keep in touch with them as well as plan opportunities to minister as well as discuss things online.

6. Sadly, yes.

7. Post on their wall.

9. Not using discretion. They used to have Victoria's (not-so-secret) Secret ads. I have not seen too many of those lately.

10. I suppose the "poke" is virtual...not sure why it is even on there but to confuse people like me.

11. Confused for life on this one!

You are so funny, Josh!

1. Maybe 1 every 2 days. I used to be on it more, but I either do not have much access to internet any more or it is blocked.


2. I message them asking them who they are and if they know me.

3. I find Facebook very useful for communicating with friends...catching up with friends...finding lost friends...etc. It is like a giant post board in high school where people can write whatever they want on the wall or pictures and not get in trouble by the teacher - having to spent detention cleaning toilets or something.

4. Nah

5. I actually started my church's group. We have had a lot of people leave the church for ministry opportunities in other parts of the country/world. It is good to still keep in touch with them as well as plan opportunities to minister as well as discuss things online.

6. Sadly, yes.

7. Post on their wall.

9. Not using discretion. They used to have Victoria's (not-so-secret) Secret ads. I have not seen too many of those lately.

10. I suppose the "poke" is virtual...not sure why it is even on there but to confuse people like me.

11. Confused for life on this one!

BTW: I am adding you as a friend as you requested. Since you do not know me, you can add me till you don't feel so bad about your number of friends and let me go. ha ha

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